Based on your writing i can see that you are like other selfish brats who listen to reply not to understand. These anti-early birds really want to be punctual—they just prefer to be right on time. I had an accident, which left me very beat up. An article in USA Today discussed the cost of tardiness for CEOs. 85% Upvoted. And it certainly doesn’t mean you just “like to stop and smell the roses.” Let’s call it what it is: if you’re routinely late, you are rude and inconsiderate. So, you're not rich. If you have no real responsibilities, if nobody needs you or depends on you, then you can be as lackadaisical about timeliness as you like because it doesnt matter if your lack of dependability costs you jobs or relationships. After that they were at work just on time. Unlike you, I don't have that infantile need to assert narcissistic dominance by being deliberately (and passive-aggressively) late. Being late to a date, whether it is a romantic date or a meeting with a friend, is another of distressing dreams. Does that mean they're old? You are no one to justify myself. Extreme earliness can also be rather creepy, particularly if the event is in someone's private home, like a formal dinner party, and a guest shows up extra-early before all the preparations are done and the hosts aren't dressed yet, etc. My darling with all the challenging situations with kids, you have an excuse and reason I would think most would be lovingly forgiving and happy to see you no matter when you come. I have to keep "the peace" because these people are in laws. Nobody should be expected to tolerate chronic extreme lateness; if a friend or loved one (who is not severely ill or impaired or brain damaged) always makes you wait a long time for them to show up, then they're sending you a not-very-nice message. I am not a latecomer, mainly because I fear the judgment of those that would think ill of me if I were late. Here's the thing those people who are always on time don't understand: that's only important TO THEM. So yeah, that’s why I’m late— I’m insane. What do dreams about running late mean? Get the stick out of your arse. There are no hard and fast rules for dealing with someone who is always late.Every manager is different, as is every employee and their personal situation. Thank you for confirming that I have presented the better argument; that is after all the point of a debate: to present a more accurate, convincing or persuasive argument. May your days be filled with untimely interruption and surprise changes, my friend. They're hard to make plans with in the first place. Choosing to Be Late "If you are literally always 10 minutes late, it's psychological," Morgenstern says. “They believe they can fit more tasks into a limited amount of time than other people and thrive when they’re multitasking. I take no shit talk for nothing and my friends know this really good. * Arriving chronically extremely late to work or to meetings at work is just stupid because it will probably get you fired. With this in mind, though, there's one more solution that can help, which is to find a way to reduce the perceived costs of being early. While both groups of not-OK-late people end up regularly frustrating others, punctual people tend to misunderstand Group 2, whom I’ll call CLIPs (Chronically Late Insane Persons). Like you, I used to hate being late. Or perhaps the habitually late are just selfish. I am just fina quote everything you wrote here ,because it describes you completely, and without me needed to write anything. It would be interesting to hear what your sycophants say about you when you're not within earshot, though. It's a choice. Like a couple of minutes or very late? So, don't be surprised or upset if you eventually alienate your social circle. Missed or late periods can happen for plenty of other reasons. Get a life. ImI'm sure she didn't say "Hey Honey, let's have an autistic child & try to arrange our schedules to be five minutes early everywhere". Told her that was a poor excuse. Its actually really, REALLY creepy, to do that, unless you were specifically asked by the host to arrive early to help. So, it seems to me that you have a problem taking orders or simply being cooperative when someone else needs you to do things their way. The question is 'why?'" I spent around 15 percent of my youth standing on some sidewalk alone, angrily kicking rocks because yet again, all the other kids had gotten picked up and I was still waiting for my mom. Rude or selfish, perhaps, especially if they don't consider the feelings of others, although I don't know if that's the case with most people that are perpetually tardy. But those who get a little thrill from engaging in passive-aggressive hostile behaviors like chronic tardiness, and even perhaps feel justified or entitled to their chronic tardiness, seem to lack that basic warmth of human kindness. Timeliness is simply a social contract, aka, a way for people to show mutual respect and caring for each other's valuable time. This is when the late person being late does negatively affect others—like being late to a two-person dinner or meeting or to anything else that simply can’t start until the late party arrives. My sister once missed a flight, so they rescheduled her for the following morning. When I was a supervisor I wrote them up. Nobody asked YOU to be rude to a mother of four, regardless of your opinion. Ive seen it a lot on reddit lately people saying their late grandmother, late boyfriend, late aunt ext. They HATE it. Being consistently late and making people wait on you is an indirect or passive-aggressive way of saying "I'm more important than you; my time is more valuable than yours.". Are you asking what the threshold is between being called 'late' and not having to bother? It doesn't always mean that there is something wrong with you, although being ignored may make you feel that way. Each of us has lived a life so far, full of rich experiences where each person we encounter will have left an impression, big or small. 16 Answers. Though desperately wanting to break the habit, the conflicting motivation to not be late or early poses a real problem. When I’m at home working, I hate when there’s something on my schedule that I have to stop everything to go outside and do. I feel like an adult, so it’s easy to act like an adult. Until 4 years ago, I was late for EVERYTHING, even if I gave myself EXTRA TIME. There are various reasons. "Former" spouses are still living, and it implies having had more than one. You have no legitimate argument to offer, CP, so you revert to a specious and childish DARVO response. What does it mean when someone says their "late" relative? ), etc. “He Had High Self-Esteem and Didn’t Ask Who I’d Slept With”, 3 Simple Questions Screen for Common Personality Disorders, Predicting Infidelity from Precise Personality Sub-Traits, How to Negotiate Sex in Your Relationship, Psychology Today © 2020 Sussex Publishers, LLC, The Rise of COVID-19 Vaccine Selfies on Social Media, Eating Disorders in Gender-Expansive Individuals. Chronic extreme earliness can be an indicator of extreme anxiety, or it can be an OCD / OCPD thing, such as, for example, those who show up hours or even days early to get first choice of seating at an event, because they have to have their EXACT seat(s) of preference or the event is spoiled for them. it’s really It, finally, is enough to arrive on time!! Designed to Be Kind: Why We Are More Social Than Selfish, Why Healthcare Workers Need More Than the COVID Vaccine. It's rude, lazy and absolutely useless to a team effort. One of the most obvious and common reasons that people are frequently late is that they simply fail to accurately judge how long a task will take - something known as the planning fallacy. That signifies an inability to enjoy the moment.”. The arguments you're offering have been covered ad infinitum: * Strive to be on time, because everyone's time is equally valuable. We use "ex" to designate someone we've divorced, and "late" for someone taken from us by death. When Friends Are Always Late Or Unreliable. However, you are entitled to your opinion however rude it is. I don't need to prove anything to anyone. What happened 4 years ago to change that dynamic? some people think that our thought process has no particular reason and can be completely random. So, I started giving myself almost 4 hours to go places. And it's hard for you to understand that one of the ways that friends show that they care about each other's needs and feelings is to strive to be on time and not keep your friends waiting. And not every should be forced to be on time if they can't or choose not to. If those four well-paid employees arrived 15 minutes before Weill got to the meeting, that still would have cost the company $4,250 in wasted time. No, so relax. What It Means When Someone Says ‘Slide Into Your DMs Like…’ Since you can have an open conversation with anyone on social media by replying to a message or putting @username in front of your the message, DMs are often used for conversations that you and the other user would rather keep just between the two of you. It’s not unusual for us to meet someone from our past every now and then. Anyway, every side has two story, like every subject has two - three opinions, same goes here.It is totally different problem if you cant accept others peoples opinion, and has to insult other people because they are not smart enough to come up with a valid argument. Her reply was~of course, I cannot be late for school/work. But chronic extreme lateness is different; its a repeating pattern of behavior that is specific to covert hostility: it's passive-aggressive, its a dominance behavior or a rebellious behavior, and it's a narcissistic behavior. How late? 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